As you probably know by now, mother’s untimely death was the most life-altering moment of my life. My siblings and I went to Texas and my older siblings stayed in Kansas once my mother died. By year two, I no longer lived with my younger siblings. I became a chronic runaway then I refused to go “home”. Among other things, I had an adult step-cousin that came very close to raping me. Each attack became more aggressive. It got to the point he would hurt my baby brothers (two and four at the time) as a retaliation.
I knew I would not be able to outrun him forever. Plus, something told me if I stayed, I would never be able to save my siblings from what had become hell on Earth for us. Anyway, I became obsessed with reunifying with all my siblings. The rest of my childhood was about surviving and my young adulthood was about getting our family back together.
The story is much deeper and complex and my morning gratitude is not the format for it. With everything that my siblings and I have been through, I am happy that to have some of them as good friends.
Friend-Zoned Siblings Are a Blessing
Needless to say, as I got older, I had to give up the notion that relative love each other. Given, what we’ve been through, It’s a blessing to have some of my siblings in my friend zone.
Friend-Zoned Siblings Share a Deeper Bond
I did go back for my siblings as soon as I was an adult — at 48, I can see that I was still a child. I am sure you can imagine what a roller coaster ride that was. We have survived hard times, arguments, and estrangement — that makes our friendship that much sweeter. You are not guaranteed a friendship with your sibling but if you are friends, the friendship is grounded with love and loyalty.
Friend-Zoned Siblings Appreciate You
I now see the role as sister-mother is the worst role you can have as a sibling. Your siblings look to you for the answers but they resent your authority. My friend-zoned younger siblings are my friends. They know me and know my heart. It feels good that they realize I was a kid in adult shoes. It also feels good to have siblings that have gotten to know my heart and my vulnerabilities — and not try to exploit them.
I used to think I was a failure because my siblings and I are not all close friends. I don’t know why I put that pressure on myself — I guess it was the child in me, trying to keep my mom alive. I am so happy that my stinkin’ thinkin’ has changed. I am super blessed because I have multiple siblings in my friend group. I am so grateful for my friend-zoned siblings!