Yesterday, I was helping my niece with her homework. As we wrapped up, I asked her to read the last sentence aloud — and a meltdown ensued! Boy did I get frustrated! She began to shut down. At the end, we both learned and grew from this experience. And that’s why I thank God for discernment. I have benefited because:
- I did not act out on my frustration.
- It guided me to a solution.
- It helped jump-start the healing process.
#1 Discernment Allows You to Feel Without Acting on Feelings
When my niece decided she was not going to read the sentence, I thought “Oh Lord, please give me patience.” However, my actions were based on my goal to help her grow not ease my frustrations. I had no problem “checking” myself. So, after explaining why I wanted her to read the sentence and warning her I would not help her any further, I turned to my computer and started doing my work.
#2 Discernment/God Reveals the Answer
My niece stayed by my side. I purposely kept working even though I could hear her sigh. Then finally she snuggled up to me. I looked at her and said “I love you. Auntie is not mean, I just know the special girl you are and it wouldn’t be fair if I stifle your awesomeness. ” She told me it was “scary” to read out loud. That is when discernment (otherwise known as God) revealed the answer was in my morning gratitude blog.
#3 Discernment Comes With Unexpected Opportunities
My niece has experiences that disrupted her childhood. Just this summer, a police officer handcuffed her in the home. This was just one of the many experiences that made her world “scary”. So, I looked at her and let her know it was normal to be nervous about reading and talked her through why it was not scary. Discernment allowed for an unexpected opportunity to jump-start the healing process.
I let her know that as a child, it is natural to associate any uncomfortable feeling with danger based on a bad experience. I let her know that even I needed help to not confuse my feelings. I asked her why she was nervous and she explained she was worried it was not good enough!
What a breakthrough! For the first time, she was able to identify what she was feeling and why! Y’all, that’s HUGE. And that’s why I am grateful for discernment. It allowed me to shut up and let God take over.
Because of this, my niece is healing without even realizing it!