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GM foot soldiers! As I reflect back on this year, the one thing I am grateful for is the courage to practice openness. Being open is not easy. It leaves you vulnerable and subject to some unexpected results. While being open was the subject of pain, it was responsible for many blessings. Here are four reasons I am happy I practiced openness.
Wisdom. Being open is not easy especially since you vulnerable to betrayal, rejection and being exploited. The hardest thing is practicing openness after you are hurt as a result it. I have practiced openness after some of my biggest hurt. One thing I learned through pain was the reason for the pain. I have healed some of my brokenness. I have become aware of the risks that comes from openness. Because I continually learn and grow from being open, I have the ability to relate to those who have been hurt and encourage them to dust themselves off and not to withdraw. It has also allowed me to help the younger generation know what is coming around the corner.
Courage. Openness has taught me that I am always subject to human feelings. I have learned through experience that the traditional path to self-development hinders progress. Like many, I have insecurities, anxieties and other “issues” that has led to some public faux pas. I have learned that instead of working on my confidence, practicing courage and openness has been key. As a result of practicing openness, I have not only gained couraged but it has also reduced the impact that my insecurities have on my progress.
Healing. It had to be 2008-2009 when I was given a big blow … it was the spiritual breakdown of all breakdowns. I felt foolish and thought that my positive outlook was a fool’s way of thinking. About three years ago I sat in my spiritual counselor and therapist’s office for my third visit or so. I was disoriented from our visit the day before. I sat in front of her with a swollen face, wearing my Maxi dress inside out accented with hideous pink rainboots — I declared that I came into her office an able body woman and I refused to leave in the state she left me in the day before. She begged me open up myself to one more person; her. Because of being open with her I healed from the event that left me in the bowels of darkness. We now can laugh at the day I showed up in her office so fashionably aligned with my emotions … a hot mess!
Relationships. A result of wisdom, courage and healing, I have been able to see my relationships for what they were. I am no longer hold shame or embarrassment of being my authentic self. Since my mind is not occupied by wondering what some of the people in my life think, I am free to enjoy spiritual connections. It has also allowed me to embrace who I am and it also enhanced my relationship with God.
It would be great to say that I am 100 percent open 100 percent of the time but that would be less than honest. There is time for discretion and there are still a few things that I am not sure is even necessary to share. Openness is not a path without pain or risks, but I know it is the path to joy (even on a Monday).
Remember always that gratitude improves your attitude and increases your blessings! GM everyone!