My family was going through a very tough challenge when a member of my support system looked at me and said, “How can I help you get through this, Jowanna?” I did not know how to respond. It was only then I realized I never knew what support was. My mind wandered back to being a young girl. My mom died unexpectedly and then my family was suddenly separated. We were thrust into a new world without consideration of what it must have been like for young children to literally lose the world they knew.
As I sit here and write, I am reminded of another experience I had a couple of years before my mom died. I was at the dentist and was having a horrible visit. I was so terrified, and I had a complete meltdown. The dental assistant could not calm me down. She finally asked me if I wanted my mom. What I heard was, “If you do not stop crying, I am going to get your mother.” Looking back, the sweet dental assistant just wanted to get me some support. I quickly told her I did not want her to get my mother. I hiccuped, cried and heeved as silently as I could. I know it would have broken my mom’s heart that I was more terrified of her than the horrible dentist visit.
As I started my own family, it was always important that my children and my husband had a support system beyond me. I was a great supporter but did not know how to be supported. So when one of my confidants asked me how she could support me through a difficult time, I did not know how to answer because I did not know what it meant nor did I know how to receive it.
Since then, I have learned how to ask for support and most importantly how to receive support. I am so grateful this Monday morning that God has blessed me with a support system fit for royalty. For that, I am truly grateful. GM Foot Soldiers! Remember that gratitude improves your attitude and increases your blessings.