I originally intended my Mother’s Day blog to be about mothers who have had to face circumstances that no mother would have to face. However, today I will dedicate my first Daley Word Mother’s Day blog to my mother, Dorothy (Parris) Allen. My mother was in my life for only my first twelve years yet her influence speaks to the powerful impact of mothers. I am who I am today because of both the good experiences (and not so good ones) I shared with my mother. Her positive influence far outweighs any of the negative experiences we shared.
My mom made a big transformation the last three years of her life. While she was a woman who always put her kids first, I remember things like my mother would throw the biggest New Year’s party each year. I remember her sending us to church but she did not always go herself. However, the last three years of her life was dedicated to God. My mom lived and breathed Christ. She drew as many people to God as she did to her parties. I will never forget looking at her Bible and being amazed with how tattered it was in just three short years. My mom certainly inspired me to change as a young girl and I imagine that I will continue evolving until the day I die.
Transparency & Authenticity
My mom was the same person inside our home as she was outside our home. Her words, actions and lifestyle were all in sync. My mother is certainly the reason why I believe in transparency. Being able to see who my mom was through her teachings and actions allowed me to understand her in my adult life. I learned to understand how tough motherhood is and I could only imagine how her childhood influenced the way she mothered her kids.
If you look up a mama bear you would no doubt see a picture of my mother. My mother put her children first. I am an immigrant. I came to the United States when I was seven. It is not uncommon for immigrants to leave their children behind in their home country while they get settled in the United States. It was something quite common in our family. My mom, however, would not leave the country without having all of her children with her. I remember her having a hard time at the airport on the day we were to leave. I just remember my mom crying, talking to authorities and having to get additional paperwork. We were delayed but that woman did not leave without having her five children in tow.
My mother had a strong spirit. She was the type of person you could not imagine not living forever. I don’t ever remember her ever being sick. You can imagine the blow when my mother died at the young age of 34. Unfortunately my mother nourished her spirit but not her body. I, too, have a strong spirit like my mom. When you have a strong and energetic spirit, it allows you to sometimes surpass your human limitations. However, my mother’s untimely death reminds me that I am human, therefore, mortal. It kept me from making deadly mistakes when I was young and I hope that inspires me to continue to take care of myself in the second half of my life.
Happy Mother’s Day
Even though I lost my mother at a young age, I have had quite a few surrogate mothers. I thank God for them as I thank God for you. Happy Mother’s Day to all mothers. To all you great mommies, keep it up because it’s an honor you must earn everyday. For all you mothers in need of transforming, remember it’s never too late. Last but not least, I have a message for my mother. Today I shout from Earth to Heaven, “Happy Mother’s Day Mami!”