I am thankful for my sons for so many reasons. They are family oriented, responsible, resilient and compassionate young men. I have been acutely aware of how irresponsible men affected my childhood. Long before my child-bearing age, I decided I would not enable my sons (if I had any). I have since come to know that children will be who they choose to be; however, we do have influence.
I have three sons who are good, hard-working citizens. Though they share values, I appreciate their differences. Those differences have been a blessing to me. Although the boys are adults and I do not expect them to “take care” of me, they have been a supportive trio:
- Tristan has been the “take charge” guy in certain situations.
- Jordan has been the “ride or die” kind of guy.
- Casey has been the “check in” and deliver dude.
Tristan, Tri-State Leader of the Family
I have finally embraced my role of being the leader of my extended family. My mom died right before I turned a teenager. I accepted responsibility for my younger siblings, even before I knew what it meant. Though my siblings and I are all adults, everyone still needs a support system. My son he has picked up that leadership role, except he is doing a better job at it than I did at his age. He gives much-needed support with respect and compassion, minus the enabling.
Jordan, the Quiet but Strong Leader
Without prompting, Jordan decided to come home after he graduated. Due to certain circumstances, he wanted to help my husband and me. Really, it was more about me than my husband. While certain things are playing out, Jordan does not want me to be alone plus he has been instrumental around the house. He knows and takes care of his priorities — building his own life — yet he knows the “little” things to do that means a lot.
Casey, the Seamless Leader
I don’t even know when I noticed that Casey started Face-Timing me a couple of times in the week. I then noticed he had a way of calling me to check-in at the right time, without causing a ruckus. He is also the guy that makes sure both my husband, and my “wants” are met. He’s taken charge of making sure no one is taking advantage of us while still being totally aware that his father and I are not invalids. He comes in spirited, charismatic and seamless and not afraid to put someone in their place.
I am not, nor should I ever be my children’s first priority. I am not their job but I love being part of their family. I want them to know they are awesome in their natural ability and I need nothing more. That’s why I am thankful for my sons.